Kuya Tom, as I knew Bebe from way back, went though a lot before becoming her true self -- Bebe Gandanghari. Coming from a typical Filipino macho family, Bebe felt that she had to do what was expected of her: marry a woman, play it straight, and suck it all in. But anyone who cannot come into terms with his own identity will eventually have a boiling point.
I recently defriended a Facecook friend.
What got my ire was his status, which said: "(Name withheld) is feeling bad that Bebe Gandanghari is getting a lot of airtime. What message are we giving the closeted young gay men?"
To me, it's not the greatest idea to stay in the closet. It is a lonely place and the last person you will be fooling is yourself, really.
It is not Rustom's responbility to help anyone come out of the closet. Coming out is a process that we all go through in different ways. What worked for me may not work for you.
But, I say, The hardest closet to come out of is the self-built closet that we put ourselves in.